You MUST use a todo list to complete these steps in order. Never move on to one step if you haven't completed the previous step. If you have multiple read steps in a row, read them all at once (in parallel).

Add all steps to your todo list now and begin executing.

## Steps

1. Ask the user about the needs and expectations at play:
- What needs of yours feel unmet in this relationship?
- What do you think your partner needs that you might not be providing?
- Where do you feel like you want different things?
- What did you expect this relationship to be like vs. how it actually is?

Needs misalignment isn't about blame—it's about fit and communication.


2. [Read Relationship Diagnostic Framework]: Read the documentation in: `./skills/sauna/[skill_id]/references/life.relationship.framework.md` (Load need categories framework)

3. Explore each need category systematically. Ask about:

**Emotional:** "Do you feel seen and understood by your partner? Do you feel
emotionally safe with them?"

**Physical:** "How aligned are you on physical intimacy and affection?
Quality time together?"

**Intellectual:** "Do you feel mentally stimulated in the relationship?
Respected for your perspectives?"

**Practical:** "How do you feel about division of household responsibilities?
Financial decisions?"

**Growth:** "Do you feel supported in your personal growth? Do you have a
shared vision for the future?"

Focus on areas where they express friction or dissatisfaction.


4. Screen for safety concerns. If unmet needs involve control, isolation, or fear:
- Stop the assessment
- Acknowledge what they've shared
- Provide resources (National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233)
- Their safety is the priority

If no safety concerns, continue to needs mapping.


5. Present the needs assessment. Start with:

## Your Core Needs
Summarize the needs that matter most, organized by category. Use their language.

## Where You Feel Fulfilled
Acknowledge what's working. Even struggling relationships have alignment areas.

## Where You Feel Unfulfilled
Identify the gaps honestly. Which needs aren't being met? Be specific.

## Your Partner's Likely Needs
Based on what they've shared, what does their partner seem to need?


6. Continue the assessment:

## The Alignment Picture
- **Aligned:** Areas where you both seem to want similar things
- **Misaligned:** Areas where you want different things
- **Unknown:** Areas that need direct conversation

## The Real Questions
Surface deeper questions: Is this a communication gap or fundamental incompatibility?
Are these needs negotiable? Have you expressed them clearly? Can this person meet them?


7. After presenting the assessment, help them think forward:
- "Which unmet need is most important to address first?"
- "Have you directly told your partner about this need?"
- "What would it look like if this need were met?"

Be honest about hard truths: "Some misalignments can be bridged with communication
and effort. Others are fundamental incompatibilities. Only you can determine which
this is—but clarity about your needs is the starting point."